Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Say it

"We have all met people who proudly proclaim 'I always say what i mean' or 'I always tell the truth'. Such utterances are warning signals. Because anyone who chooses always to be honest is abdicating from their responsibility as a fellow human being. They make it easy for themselves, because they have fixed norm with which to arrange their lives, whilst the world around them is entirely unprotected from the truth-teller. Life is sadly not so uncomplicated that we should in all circumstances say what we think, or how things really are." - Stefan Einhorn in The Art of Being Kind -

Lets say, a little girl comes up to you, shows you a drawing and tells you proudly that it is a picture of a cat. Do you tell her that it looks more like an exploding balloon?

Life is not so easy being independent after all. Some people just gladly rejoice in your mistake & make sure you won't miss all the i-told-u-so remarks or every single inch of the the false decision pointed right up on your face.

It dawned on me today at the office...when you see how people get so enthusiastic in proving that you have made a wrong choice & yet barely lift their head if you make something good.

Every day, we make decisions that affect other people, and we never exactly find out what most of the consequences of our actions are. So, we should throw up our hands and say that it doesn't matter what we do, because the consequences are in no way imaginable...

No. I don't think so. Be kind. It won't kill you.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

hey, i am one of those who means what we say and i give out comments and compliments when the situation is right :)...

Anonymous said...

;) lets look at particular people who simply choose to say things without ever considering of how it could be for the other ends. If you think...before you said anything...then it should be alright i guess...which means u are not simply being selfish & there's a hint of kind thoughts & purpose of the comments..;)

Anonymous said...

nicely put woman hehehe

Anonymous said...

there's a thing called white lies?? Used em.

Anonymous said...

yep vera..just that some people kan..they make sure you feel bad about things that u did wrong ba...sigh~