They broke up for a reason. Full stop.
No one should ever let the past effect the present and ruin the future. It's hard to control but don't let some ex control the success of your relationship. Easier said than done. I know. If the other person is not doing something about it, get control of it and decide for yourself just how much you want it to effect you and your emotion.
Become bored with it. The only downside of this is that, be careful not to get bored with the feelings and the relationship itself.
Think about it, you can become bored with just about anything. Just like no matter how much you love Chicken Rice for example, if you ate it every single day, 3 meals a day, your mind would start to block out the flavors.
The same is true if you are hurting. I know that sometimes it's really hard to ignore because the thought is always there and sometimes you refuse to face it head-on. Instead it lingers at the edges, poking at you constantly. Stop it. Just do something like what a broken record does. Let it repeat itself over and over again and after a while you will be sick and tired of hearing it. It will be really painful the first time. To acknowledge those things or memories or stuff or just about the person itself that really hurt you but it has to be done.
At the end of the day, it really only hurt one person. You. It's keeping you from being happy which is really not how it is suppose to be. Everyone have their own baggage of past relationship but it's really not fair to go and put the burden to the person you'll want to be with at the present.
No one should ever let the past effect the present and ruin the future. It's hard to control but don't let some ex control the success of your relationship. Easier said than done. I know. If the other person is not doing something about it, get control of it and decide for yourself just how much you want it to effect you and your emotion.
Become bored with it. The only downside of this is that, be careful not to get bored with the feelings and the relationship itself.
Think about it, you can become bored with just about anything. Just like no matter how much you love Chicken Rice for example, if you ate it every single day, 3 meals a day, your mind would start to block out the flavors.
The same is true if you are hurting. I know that sometimes it's really hard to ignore because the thought is always there and sometimes you refuse to face it head-on. Instead it lingers at the edges, poking at you constantly. Stop it. Just do something like what a broken record does. Let it repeat itself over and over again and after a while you will be sick and tired of hearing it. It will be really painful the first time. To acknowledge those things or memories or stuff or just about the person itself that really hurt you but it has to be done.
At the end of the day, it really only hurt one person. You. It's keeping you from being happy which is really not how it is suppose to be. Everyone have their own baggage of past relationship but it's really not fair to go and put the burden to the person you'll want to be with at the present.
