From now onwards,
I will live, love, feel and try more...
Until the last day of my life.
Sunday, May 20, 2012
Thursday, May 3, 2012
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
An ex is an ex for a reason
They broke up for a reason. Full stop.
No one should ever let the past effect the present and ruin the future. It's hard to control but don't let some ex control the success of your relationship. Easier said than done. I know. If the other person is not doing something about it, get control of it and decide for yourself just how much you want it to effect you and your emotion.
Become bored with it. The only downside of this is that, be careful not to get bored with the feelings and the relationship itself.
Think about it, you can become bored with just about anything. Just like no matter how much you love Chicken Rice for example, if you ate it every single day, 3 meals a day, your mind would start to block out the flavors.
The same is true if you are hurting. I know that sometimes it's really hard to ignore because the thought is always there and sometimes you refuse to face it head-on. Instead it lingers at the edges, poking at you constantly. Stop it. Just do something like what a broken record does. Let it repeat itself over and over again and after a while you will be sick and tired of hearing it. It will be really painful the first time. To acknowledge those things or memories or stuff or just about the person itself that really hurt you but it has to be done.
At the end of the day, it really only hurt one person. You. It's keeping you from being happy which is really not how it is suppose to be. Everyone have their own baggage of past relationship but it's really not fair to go and put the burden to the person you'll want to be with at the present.
No one should ever let the past effect the present and ruin the future. It's hard to control but don't let some ex control the success of your relationship. Easier said than done. I know. If the other person is not doing something about it, get control of it and decide for yourself just how much you want it to effect you and your emotion.
Become bored with it. The only downside of this is that, be careful not to get bored with the feelings and the relationship itself.
Think about it, you can become bored with just about anything. Just like no matter how much you love Chicken Rice for example, if you ate it every single day, 3 meals a day, your mind would start to block out the flavors.
The same is true if you are hurting. I know that sometimes it's really hard to ignore because the thought is always there and sometimes you refuse to face it head-on. Instead it lingers at the edges, poking at you constantly. Stop it. Just do something like what a broken record does. Let it repeat itself over and over again and after a while you will be sick and tired of hearing it. It will be really painful the first time. To acknowledge those things or memories or stuff or just about the person itself that really hurt you but it has to be done.
At the end of the day, it really only hurt one person. You. It's keeping you from being happy which is really not how it is suppose to be. Everyone have their own baggage of past relationship but it's really not fair to go and put the burden to the person you'll want to be with at the present.
Friday, February 17, 2012
Always End Your Day With Good Thoughts And Feelings
Sigh~
At least I'm feeling alright now.
I just feel the need to share with you one of my favorite quote today. I remember this while talking to my good friend earlier.
"If you doing ordinary things everyday, you will always be ordinary. If you want to be extraordinary, then start doing something extraordinary."
Hope that will keep you get start in anything you've been dreaming of. [smile]
At least I'm feeling alright now.
I just feel the need to share with you one of my favorite quote today. I remember this while talking to my good friend earlier.
"If you doing ordinary things everyday, you will always be ordinary. If you want to be extraordinary, then start doing something extraordinary."
Hope that will keep you get start in anything you've been dreaming of. [smile]
You Can All Go To Hell
I'm reeling with emotion right now. Somehow the day just turn out wrongly for me. I guess it's because of the bottled up emotion I have been keeping all these time or there's just something wrong with either me or everybody else.
I hate.
I'm frustrated.
I'm tired.
I'm unhappy.
That's how my feelings are towards a few different things today.
I think I need to put some distance between myself and everybody else.
But still for now...bear with me. I don't like posting these kind of articles as well but I just want to let this out here to stabilize my feeling because I have business appointment about half an hour from now and I don't want this stupid thing to disturb me and affect my presentation.
Taking a deep breath and I'm out! And also, f**k you...~in general direction.
I hate.
I'm frustrated.
I'm tired.
I'm unhappy.
That's how my feelings are towards a few different things today.
I think I need to put some distance between myself and everybody else.
But still for now...bear with me. I don't like posting these kind of articles as well but I just want to let this out here to stabilize my feeling because I have business appointment about half an hour from now and I don't want this stupid thing to disturb me and affect my presentation.
Taking a deep breath and I'm out! And also, f**k you...~in general direction.
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
My Day
I woke up this morning with a 'Happy Valentine' wish. It was simple but enough to make me feel warm and happy inside. Thank you.
I tried something to make the day feel more 'celebrated' but it didn't work out well and I felt a bit disappointed but I guess it's okay since everyday is a lovey day for me. [smile.smile.]
Then, I spend the night of Valentine's day this year following up with my business partner on a business that I'm currently developing and while I was on my way to meet them, it came across my mind that this is just one of the many things that I may need to sacrifice later along the journey for me to become a successful person. I'll be spending my 28th birthday this year on a business conference in KL and there goes another special day without close friends and loved one. I just hope they will understand what and why I'm doing this for myself now and still support me all the way.
I stop expecting too much from anything or anyone a long time ago that if something didn't happen or not what it should be, I can deal with it much better now. I just let it go and still try my best anyway. I know this might not make any sense to any of you. A lot of other things are all in my head but I just feel the need to type it up, lest I forget that I once thought and felt this way.
Till then. Don't worry. And be happy. [smile]
I tried something to make the day feel more 'celebrated' but it didn't work out well and I felt a bit disappointed but I guess it's okay since everyday is a lovey day for me. [smile.smile.]
Then, I spend the night of Valentine's day this year following up with my business partner on a business that I'm currently developing and while I was on my way to meet them, it came across my mind that this is just one of the many things that I may need to sacrifice later along the journey for me to become a successful person. I'll be spending my 28th birthday this year on a business conference in KL and there goes another special day without close friends and loved one. I just hope they will understand what and why I'm doing this for myself now and still support me all the way.
I stop expecting too much from anything or anyone a long time ago that if something didn't happen or not what it should be, I can deal with it much better now. I just let it go and still try my best anyway. I know this might not make any sense to any of you. A lot of other things are all in my head but I just feel the need to type it up, lest I forget that I once thought and felt this way.
Till then. Don't worry. And be happy. [smile]
Friday, January 27, 2012
The Art of Listening
It takes practice. Believe me. You might think that to listen to people is an easy thing because you feel that you just need to shut up and let the other people do the talking. It's not. Listening well takes focus, patience and practice. You actually put more mental effort in listening than speaking.
I confess that I sometimes tend to lose patient in listening to other people when they are talking. However, I strive consciously to push myself to listen to what other people have to say about something. Just try it for once and you'll be amaze and annoyed the next time you get the chance to communicate with someone who never listen. There and then will you only know how it feels. Because you tried it. Listen.
I also agree that I'll tend to get emotional over this particular topic. It's your lucky day by the way. The Toastmaster monthly magazines that I'm reading right now have just the perfect tips for you to be a good listener and which also prompt me to do this post. I'm killing the birds with one stone.
So here it goes,
Watch A Person's Body Language. Unspoken cues can say more than words.
Make Eye Contact. This indicates you are paying attention and decreases external distractions.
Don't Interrupt. Period.
Listen To Every.Last.Word. Focus on what the speaker is saying. Planning what you will say once the speaker stops talking is not listening.
Pause To Process. Take a moment to absorb what you just heard and formulate an appropriate response. Just like in a superior speech, pauses are a great addition to every conversation.
Ask Questions. Clarify information you are unsure about and show the speaker support. You will be surprised at what you can learn if you are truly listening.
With that, I rest my case.
I confess that I sometimes tend to lose patient in listening to other people when they are talking. However, I strive consciously to push myself to listen to what other people have to say about something. Just try it for once and you'll be amaze and annoyed the next time you get the chance to communicate with someone who never listen. There and then will you only know how it feels. Because you tried it. Listen.
I also agree that I'll tend to get emotional over this particular topic. It's your lucky day by the way. The Toastmaster monthly magazines that I'm reading right now have just the perfect tips for you to be a good listener and which also prompt me to do this post. I'm killing the birds with one stone.
So here it goes,
Watch A Person's Body Language. Unspoken cues can say more than words.
Make Eye Contact. This indicates you are paying attention and decreases external distractions.
Don't Interrupt. Period.
Listen To Every.Last.Word. Focus on what the speaker is saying. Planning what you will say once the speaker stops talking is not listening.
Pause To Process. Take a moment to absorb what you just heard and formulate an appropriate response. Just like in a superior speech, pauses are a great addition to every conversation.
Ask Questions. Clarify information you are unsure about and show the speaker support. You will be surprised at what you can learn if you are truly listening.
With that, I rest my case.
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
Happy New Year 2012
Just in case the famous prediction of 2012 is true, let me live life dangerously this year!
ha ha ha
ha ha ha
Monday, December 26, 2011
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Up Where I Belong
I meant home.
I have been feeling like this every year. Excited for a holiday to Sabah. Sometimes it turns out great, sometimes just okay. Still, I never failed to anticipate this 'going back home' time of the year.
As usual I have a few things planned for my family and myself. To spend as much time as possible with them within two weeks of my leave.
I want everything to happen as per plan and I want everyone to be happy. That's all I ask. Not more. Not too much.
I have been feeling like this every year. Excited for a holiday to Sabah. Sometimes it turns out great, sometimes just okay. Still, I never failed to anticipate this 'going back home' time of the year.
As usual I have a few things planned for my family and myself. To spend as much time as possible with them within two weeks of my leave.
I want everything to happen as per plan and I want everyone to be happy. That's all I ask. Not more. Not too much.
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